What the heck is compatibility? Whatever it is, you better have it if you’re going to be in a long relationship, let alone marriage. Here are some simple definitions:
- a feeling of sympathetic understanding
- capable of existing or living together in harmony
When it comes to compatibility in romantic relationships the issue goes much deeper than liking the same kinds of music or sharing ideas about politics and religion. The very nature of a relationship is intrinsically symbiotic. Men need to understand what women want and women need to understand what men want in order to create a happy union.
There are often times deep seeded reasons for our choice in a mate and whether it is conscious or sub-conscious, learned behavior, genetic or biological by design, men and women have consistently, fought the same battle in the war of the sexes; men seek youth and beauty and women seek security. This appears to be the best recipe for compatibility.
Women are often times looking for a man who will be a dependable partner and provider. While attraction is important, women are less likely to seek out the lusty lothario for a long term relationship. Security and reliability are the characteristics that draw women for the long haul. Men are looking for youth and beauty. Whether these characteristics give subliminal clues to her ability to bear children or if men simply desire visually stimulating mates in order to be compelled to provide and protect, we may never know.
Although the debate rages on as to whether we are biologically predisposed to this kind of behavior and, there are indeed exceptions to every generality, the majority of relationships fall into this kind of template. By fulfilling the primordial needs of your partner she can be “a little bit country” and you can be “a little bit rock-and-roll” and still have a highly compatible relationship.
There is a wealth of research and many articles on the web which address the issue of compatibility. Check out the links below to see where you fit in the debate and find the perfect match for you.
Compatibility Web Guide
Is loving someone for their money any worse than loving them for their looks?
This is a great article that attempts to answer the age old question; for love or money? And for that matter, is he marrying her just for her looks. Explore the dilemma and see if there is any reason to debate at all.
Love Style and Spending Habits
Find out if there is something to be revealed by the spending habits of your mate. What is she saying when she fills her closet with shoes and handbags or saves all of her nuts for winter. He may say she’s in love but only her actions will tell the real story.
Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men
That receding hairline and double chin may just be your ticket o long lasting romantic happiness with the woman of your dreams. Read about making your flaws your biggest draw to beautiful women by accentuating the qualities she’s really looking for that turn you into Prince Charming.
When all else fails consult the astrologer! Well, it can’t possible less effective than a wild guess. Check out this site for a little fun and curiosity and see if the stars hold the answers for you.
Marriage and Compatibility
Check out love Chinese style. With some brief calculations find out if the key to happiness lies in the ancient art of Chinese astrology.
The Relationship Gym
“Work Out” your love life with relationship advice, read success stories and take the quiz to see if you and your lover are made for each other.
Ezine decodes the compatibility factor and offers links to articles, blogs and advice to help you decide if you are courting Miss Right or Miss Right Now.
There are all sorts of web sites trying to help you and your gal figure out if you’re compatible. Do they work? Who knows? They can, however, be pretty fun.
Plenty of personality tests.